Supporting women on their journey of

I love helping women explore who they want to be with a sense of purposefulness and confidence in their worth.

Together, we honor past experiences and help integrate them into better relationships and happier living.

Identity in Motherhood

Our relationship to our own motherhood is complex and can present us with a plethora of emotions, challenges, expectations, and experiences. Many of our clients struggle with infertility, loss of identity, loneliness, renavigating marriage dynamics, and  single motherhood. Additionally, some women  purposefully choose not to be mothers and experience many conflicting emotions around that decision.

Healthy Marriages

Relationships are ever-evolving and it’s not uncommon to find yourself lost in one where you once felt safe and secure. Our goal through therapy is to help you be awakened into a purposeful, thriving, and intentional place during each season of your partnership. This can look like the work of individual or marital therapy. It can also, at times, look like the grief work and peaceful resolution of separation. We help you find your way back to you by fostering intimacy, transparency and authenticity both within you and/or each other.

“Most people are going to have two or three marriages in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person.” –Esther Perel, MFT

Ambiguous loss

Bereavement and grief aren’t easy or fun things to process but they are a fundamental part of what it means to be a human who loves. Bereavement refers to the process of recovering from the death of a loved one, and grief is a reaction for any form of loss. Both encompass a wide range of emotions such as fear, anger and deep, deep sadness.

Common symptoms of grief can be physical, emotional, or social.

  • A few common symptoms in these categories are:

    • Physical

    • Crying and sighing

    • Headaches

    • Loss of appetite

    • Difficulty sleeping

    • Weakness

    • Fatigue

    • Emotional

    • Feelings of sadness and yearning

    • Feelings of worry or anger

    • Feelings of frustration or guilt

    Social

    • Feeling detached from others

    • Self-isolation from social contact

    • Behaving in ways that are not normal for you

    Every grieving experience is different. A person may be able to continue their day-to-day routine after one loss, yet not be able to get out of bed after the loss of someone else. Whatever your personal symptoms are, grief and bereavement counseling have been proven to help.

Female platonic friendships

In the young school age era, I have watched my children grow and flourish in friendship. This youthful launching pad of having and keeping friends shows up as nothing but goodness. It’s Playful. Consistent. Simple. Abundant.

In our adult years, making and keeping friends becomes so much more complex. We lose touch. They move away. There is a break up. We grow “out of the friendship”. And in those seasons we confront not only grief and loneliness, but also the reality that time and energetic resources may not be as robustly available to us to regenerate, heal and try again.

  • I work with so many lonely women. Women who crave connection, but do not know where to look or do not believe such vitality and deep female to female intimacy can ever be available to them. Consider the deep work of therapy if you desire more – more from yourself in vulnerability and interdependence, and more from others in what they offer you.

    Common themes of client work in the realm of female friendship:

    • Desiring a deeper connection with friends beyond kids’ schedules, shared hobbies or work drama

    • Grieving the loss of “more connected times” as we adjust into seasons of busyness, servanthood or distraction

    • Exploring our contributions and offerings in female friendship as well as our emotional and intimate needs from others

    • Identifying themes of toxicity or fatal red flags in a friendship, and moving through the uncomfortable process of parting ways

    • Learning and practicing new tools for healthy conflict resolution and boundary setting

    • Finding meaning in the value of diverse friendships, yet who all share in the critical foundation of emotional safety, accountability to self and actions, and commitment to love self and others.

EMDR

After years of offering talk therapy to many, different and alike, I knew I needed to bring in supportive therapeutic modalities to help support and complete true healing. So many clients were getting close to “being there”, but still felt stuck up on some old, deeply rooted and wounded final frontiers of resolve.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) focuses on reprocessing damaged or maladaptively stored memories that are often the backbone of trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, addiction, grief and more.

  • This modality is an evidence based practice, meaning it has been deeply studied, researched and proven to be effective in helping our brains get unstuck from distressing emotional and physiological symptoms!

    What I love most about EMDR is the report of clarity, relief and unburdening clients experience immediately after treatment. Integrating Internal Family Systems into the work (IFS), I get to see client reconcile and forgive parts of self that held onto painful belief systems out of mere protection or instinct.

    Read more about EMDR therapy here

Women and body image

Food noise. Fat phobia. Thin girl privilege. As a therapist to women of all ages, I have been privy to the inner workings of hundreds of women leading to one common theme: we have been primed from the youngest of ages to be discontent in and even loathe our bodies. Though I do not work with severe active eating disorders, our work together can help you with any of the following:

    • Understanding the etiology, the part of self, and the motivations behind past or present eating behaviors

    • Healing from old family of origin systems that praised thinness and condoned female body criticism implicitly and explicitly in the home

    • Exploring personal beliefs and experiences with fat phobia and possible bias against body neutrality

    • Grieving loss of privilege from being in a female body, a handicapped body, a traumatized body, or a non-thin body

    • Untangling our relationship with the patriarchal system that has taught women to engage in personal warfare with their own body

    • Embracing the softer feminine archetypes within that promote acceptance, care, forgiveness and integration in relationship with our mind and body.

Are you looking for support with something else?

Get in touch to see how I can help.